In one of the seasons we went through, my wife and I were seriously considering attending a larger church in order to “blend in” more, since we do not have children. I explore some of my thoughts on what it is like to not have children in the second part of Father to the Childless. It is great, too, that it is available in audiobook (iTunes, Amazon, Audible) as well as e-book, if that is your preference. The bottom line is that even if you do not have children, you can choose to be happy for others who are having them. You cannot escape babies, they are a part of life! Whether or not you have them…
What did Jesus end up teaching me through this past season in my life? He can use me (and my wife) right where we’re at. We don’t have to move to a different church. Everyone who goes through it feels infertility in a variety of ways. This is what I learned during the “All In” Conference on adoption, fostering and orphan care that I attended not too long ago. In short, for my wife and me, we were called to stay at church and minister to all of the people there – including many university-aged young people! I am thankful that the Lord has given me such a deep and lasting peace in the area of not having children. A peace and closure I did not have just a few short years ago. Sorrow and sadness can give way to a dawn of great joy!
It may not be struggling with infertility, but everyone has troubles (Jn. 16:33). If we have no biological children, we can enjoy the ones in our lives: either by teaching Sunday School, being involved with programs such as Scouts or Awana. There are upsides to being childless, too, such as greater flexibility and disposable income to pursue your hobbies. Adoption or fostering are options for infertile couples, and we know couples who have faithfully pursued these avenues.
Would you consider where God may be using you at present? It is no accident. You are where you are for a season, and there’s a reason for it! Pursue your God-given dreams and aspirations. Hold your faith tighter than you can imagine. Stay close to Jesus. He won’t let you go (2 Tim. 2:11-13).